Difficult being called to preach on this gospel.
It was a temptation to skip over the first part of the gospel and preach about children.
Oh, I could preach a wonderful sermon about children!
But I won’t.
We don’t grow spiritually by avoiding the difficult things in life.
So we’re going to meet this gospel head on – we’re going to delve right into it.
And we’re going to do it with honesty and integrity.
Set the scene:
a. Jesus has set his face towards Jerusalem and his death
b. He already has enemies
c. The Pharisees in particular
d. They are constantly trying to test him – to catch him in a mistake
e. This time they come to Jesus asking him to settle a disagreement they are having
· Pharisees from the school of rabbi Hillel, a Jewish lawyer who founded a rabbinical school in Babylon; his school was liberal, humane, and tolerant
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· Pharisees from the school of rabbi Shammai, an aristocrat, quite elitist and very nationalistic; his school was conservative and strict
f. These two schools had an ongoing disagreement about divorce
g. Not about whether divorce was allowable, because it was
h. But on what grounds is it allowable
i. Deuteronomy 24 said that a man could divorce his wife on the grounds of indecency (note that a woman could not divorce her husband)
j. But how do we interpret indecency?
· Shammai said that it meant in the case of adultery
· Hillel said if a wife displeased her husband, spoke ill of his family, didn’t respect his authority, burnt his toast – he could divorce her
k. So they challenge Jesus to settle it between them; the danger was – if he agrees with one side, everyone from the other school would be angry with him
Jesus answers the way a rabbi often answered a question which was posed to him, he answered a question with a question: What did Moses command you? And so quoting Moses as their authority, they recite back what scripture says about the law for divorce.
But then Jesus shifts the focus of the conversation. He makes it primarily about marriage and not divorce. He shifts the conversation from splitting hairs about loopholes for divorce to God’s dream for humankind.
First, he acknowledges that yes, it is lawful to divorce, but that is only because humans are suffering from hardness of heart. In Greek, the words mean: a heart dried up or a parched heart. According to Jesus, it is because we have parched hearts that there is a need for divorce laws.
Then he moves on to God’s ideal for us – God’s dream for humankind
a. He begins to quote from Genesis
b. How God made man and woman as complimentary beings
c. And that they became one, both physically and spiritually
d. In essence, together, they become a new being
e. And nothing can separate them from each other
f. That is the nature of their oneness
Jesus speaks an absolute truth in this gospel.
a. When God created man and woman, he intended for them to have a union that was permanent
b. And though it doesn’t say so in this gospel, we have come to understand that the intention of God is the same for same sex unions
c. Marriage is meant to last forever
d. All divorce is a failure to fulfill God’s dream for us
e. In divorce, we fail one another and we fail God
But the purpose of this gospel is not to arouse guilt. And it is not to propose a hopelessly high standard, but to give us a vision for what God’s dream of marriage is.
We might say – but I do feel guilty. I’ve let God down. I’ve let the community of faith down. I’ve let my partner down because of my divorce.
I wasn’t able to be what I hoped I could be.
I wasn’t able to be what God dreamed for me.
I wasn’t able to create what I promised I would create.
Here is the truth:
a. All divorce is tragic
b. But sometimes staying married is more tragic than divorce
c. Some marriages should end
d. Sometimes divorce is the lesser of two evils
e. Is an intact and hopelessly broken marriage any less sinful than a divorce?
f. There are times when we must acknowledge that we have made a major mistake in the journey of life
g. We need to face it, own it, admit to our parched hearts, confess it, ask for forgiveness, and move on
h. That is living in truth
That doesn’t mean we don’t take marriage vows seriously
a. No, we hold fast to God’s dream for us
b. And we are even more determined to fulfill that dream
c. We refuse to buy into the idea of disposable relationships that are so popular in today’s culture
d. But we also refuse to be legalistic about marriage
e. God’s dream for us is far more than a rule about never ever getting a divorce
f. God’s dream for us is unity and oneness and mutuality
g. And God’s dream above all is about grace
· A grace that will not turn away from us even if we fail
· A grace that welcomes us with open arms as though we are powerless children, at times unable to help ourselves
· A grace that says “Let the little children with broken and dried up hearts come to me.” Don’t stop them – they need me and I want to bless them
· The kingdom of heaven belongs to people like these
I have experienced this grace
a. Marriage falling apart
b. Tell Bishop
c. Tell priest who was my boss
d. You must tell the vestry
e. Would they ask me to leave? Decide they couldn’t have a divorced priest?
f. Broke down
g. Chair in middle – laid hands
h. Washed in grace
In that moment I truly understood grace – not at the intellectual level, but at the heart level.
And I knew then that nothing could ever separate me from God’s love.
May we continue on our journeys confident in God’s love, confident in God’s forgiveness, confident in God’s amazing grace.